What this adds up to an outright War on Women intended to deny them their constitutional rights, their due process rights, to deny them their economic rights, and most devastating to deny them the right to care for their children in custody switching schemes that transfer custody from fit mothers to fathers with criminal backgrounds or histories of domestic violence towards women. In the past decade, if you are a woman, you have been at risk of having your life and that of your children viciously destroyed and taken apart by the Family Court system here in Connecticut, and many of you have lived through that experience.
And what do they want to achieve with these extended relationships between state government agencies? They want to "[infuse] father-friendly principles and practices into existing systems." Well, you can't be more outright than that! Further, they wish "to support and promote the positive interaction of fathers with their children understanding that fathers are critical forces in their children's lives and that they must be acknowledged and assisted with the important role they play."
In general, I would agree that fathers are very important, so I am not arguing with that. What I am arguing with is the extremist position this Fatherhood Initiative takes. They don't just mean being supportive of fathers. They mean reducing and frequently eliminating mothers, and replacing them with fathers. In other words, this Initiative promotes the concept that fathers are so essential to the lives of children that we can afford to push mothers aside, concentrate all the financial and strategic resources of the federal and state government on fathers, and then use the Family Court to steal children from mothers and transfer custody to fathers.
And don't assume this is just happening solely with low income fathers, or with the 50% or so of men in this program who are coming from jails. The Fatherhood Initiative provides services to fathers in this program "regardless of their marital and financial status." The result is a policy of promoting and giving significant legal and strategic advantages to fathers throughout all State agencies, most particularly in the Judicial Branch.
This is outright discrimination against women.
Not only is it discrimination, it is the statewide institutionalization of a patriarchal attitude that will not tolerate or allow any woman, any mother, to conduct her family life with her children without a man in charge of her and dictating her every move. So if they can't undertake a custody switching deal outright, Family Court seeks to achieve these results by policies such as placing a mother under the supervision of a family therapist or parent manager who is essentially under orders to bow to the wishes of the noncustodial father.
Another way it does so is by placing the children in the care of the Mother, but putting all decision making responsibilities in the hands of the Father. Thus, the Mother is caring for all the children's emotional and physical needs, but is not allowed to make any determinations regarding the nature of those needs.
I am sure that people who look at the website for the Fatherhood Initiative will challenge these statements and point out that the Fatherhood Initiative supports Families. Sure they do, as long as a Father is in charge of it. And every once in a while the website throws in a reference to mothers such as in the final paragraph of the "Welcome" page, "We hope you find this website useful as you continue your commitment to Connecticut's children and their fathers and mothers."
But make no mistake regarding the fundamental message of the Fatherhood Initiative. Basically, they are saying that if children do not have their Fathers, they have no one. The Fatherhood Initiative essentially eliminates mothers entirely from the equation.
If you doubt what I am saying, just take a look at the two Fatherhood Initiative public service announcements which they have posted on their website. The first one entitled "Be A Driving Force" films a young boy sitting in the back seat of a car addressing his Dad with a broad range of questions about life. We see this child from different angles. At the end of the clip, the camera finally focuses on the wheel of the car. The big surprise is that no one is sitting at the wheel. The implication is that if Dad isn't there, no one is there.
I guess Mom counts for zero from the perspective of the Fatherhood Initiative.
The second one is entitled "Whose Got the Wheel?" It shows a young girl sitting in the driver's seat of a car driving zig zag along the road. She is clearly too small to press the gas pedal or the brake, and she is too small to see out the window shield of the car. So essentially she is driving blind. As the clip begins, the announcer intones, "When you're not there, whose got the wheel?" and finishes with "A child alone on the road of life could impact us all." Alone? A child living with her mother is alone? In whose world is that true? Only in the kind of Man's World where a mother counts for nothing. The whole focus is on Fathers and Families, as if mother doesn't exist.
If you want to see these public service announcements for yourself, check out the following link: